Menu
header photo

Mari Suggs 

Simple Living: What It Is and What It's Not

When you first hear the phrase “Simple Living,” you might think it means having to do without. Often, we believe it means we must adapt to a minimalistic lifestyle, that we must live in lack, or that our furniture comes from secondhand stores. But this is not what Simple Living is. While all these can be included in your version of Simple Living, it’s not what it means at its core. Simple Living means living a life of ease which often includes slowing down.

What does Simple Living consist of?

  • Being content with what you have
  • Being in constant awareness of the present
  • Focus on experience vs. things
  • Living with less

Let’s explore this further.

If you decide to embark on Simple Living, does it mean you have to give up your collection of coffee mugs? That you have to move your family of 6 into a tiny house and that you have to sell your big screen TV? No, unless these things make your life complicated. The point of Simple Living is to uncomplicate your life. Not to make things easier, but to live with ease.

For instance, if you have a coffee mug collection and you’re stressed over where to store them, then it might be time to reassess your space to either make room for your collection or get rid of them. Whichever brings more ease into your life is what you should do.

How about your large house? Is it bringing pleasure to you? Or are you living there to keep up with the Joneses?

How about the TV? Is it bringing your family together at night for family time, or are you always thinking you need an even bigger screen?

These are just some of the ways you could be complicating your life.

So, where do you start? Let’s unpack what Simple Living with ease could look like.

BEING CONTENT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE

Sometimes people are scared of what this means. They often think it means settling for less or not being able to want for anything. This is not what being content with what you have means.

It means that you shouldn’t put all your emphasis on the chase. How many times have you gotten something you really wanted, only to move on to the next thing minutes after getting it? Without missing a beat, you’ve moved on without taking a moment to be with what you have. This step in Simple Living asks you to pause before moving on to the next thing and to take stock of what you already have.

BEING IN CONSTANT AWARENESS OF THE PRESENT

Today is more important than ever that we take time to smell the roses, literally. We’re always heading somewhere or coming from some place. We’re always on the go. And even when we’re sitting on the sofa or in bed “relaxing,” we’re busying our minds with social media. We never give our minds peace by just observing the moment. Instead, we’re always observing the past, looking toward the future, or distracting ourselves.

This step simply requires more downtime with the present. Turn off your phone, the TV, and anything else the rips you away from the now. This is where Simple Living thrives.

FOCUS ON EXPERIENCE VS. THINGS

How often are you consumed with thoughts of needing or doing more and more? Some people feel like life will fall into place once they have the perfect body, house, car, mate, etc. The chase for these things consumes their every waking thought.

But the truth is all those things are exterior wins that put you at the mercy of their success—making life more complicated and not simple.

What if you were to take your power back by focusing on what you want to experience rather than what you want to get? If you were to hone in on what you want to experience, you would zero in on how you want to feel, and that’s how you step into Simple Living. You will slowly release the addiction for wanting things, and you’ll step into feeling how you want to feel—which you control. The by-product of taking this action is that life will unfold with ease, leaving all complicated thoughts behind.

LIVING WITH LESS

Living with less is meant to uncomplicate your life. It’s intended to release you from the shackles that come from always needing to have more or the latest trends.

Remember, Simple Living is the connection to your inner peace. It’s supposed to simplify, not make you feel bad about the direction you’re taking your life in. So, if downsizing makes your life more complicated, then maybe that’s not where you need to Live Simply. Perhaps your schedule is what needs attention. Are you overwhelmed by the many to-do’s? Then start making room in your calendar for peace.

Living with less doesn’t always mean material things. Living with less could mean less drama, less worry, less news, less work, less commuting, less commitments, less Yes’.

As you can see, Simple Living probably looks different for each individual. What uncomplicates life for one person might complicate it for another.

If you’re thinking about Simple Living, maybe you can consider the following questions.

Where could I use more ease?

What does Simple Living mean to me?

Am I ready to slow down?

If you would like to watch my video on Simple Living, I invite you to visit my YouTube Channel

Till Next Time

Cover Reveal - Between Us: Chicklit / Second Chance Romance

This week marks the one-year anniversary of the release of my novel, Between Us. Last year I released the book at the start of the pandemic, and that was about all I did, release it.

This year I'm giving this book the attention it deserves, starting with a fresh new face. Without further adieu, here's the new cover.
 
The revamp of Between Us comes with a couple of additional perks:

1. The first chapter of the spin-off has been added to the book, so when you buy Between Us, you can hop right into the next story. Plus, you'll get to find out the title first!

2. From 03/23/2021 - 3/31/2021, you can buy the e-book for $0.99 on Amazon and online retailers.

The spin-off to Between Us will be released in July 2021. In the next coming weeks, I will be sharing so much more about book 2. Stay tuned.

I'm so excited to share this new launch with all of you. I'm so thankful for your support. It would mean THE WORLD to me if you would help me spread the word of this new launch. 

Here's how:
1. Share the news on your social media accounts
2. Write a review on Amazon and Goodreads
3. Share my posts about the book
4. Buy the book


Remember to add Between Us to your TBR!


If you're on YouTube and would like to do a collab with me about this new launch, I would love that. You can reach out to me at mari@marisuggs.com.

SYNOPSIS:

Conformist Emma Clark is unsatisfied with her life. She hasn't written in years and feels trapped in the same humdrum routine with her three best friends from college. She wants something new, but she doesn't know how to break free from her predictable existence.

When she meets Danny Watkins, an enigmatic businessman, Emma is pulled along on a new adventure. There's only one problem: Danny is going through a nasty divorce and there's only one person he's looking out for. Himself.

They quickly become friends as Danny inspires Emma to face the blank page again, and she helps him restore his farmhouse. But when love blooms, they both have to ask, what are they willing to give up for the sake of love?


I will talk to you guys soon. I can't wait to see all your pics and read all your reviews. 
 
If you would like to see my entire process on how I worked on the cover reveal, I have a vlog for you.
 

How to Use Goodreads as an Author

I recently took the webinar “How to Sell More Books Using Goodreads,” and it was mind-blowing. I was so impressed by the information provided that I purchased what they were selling.

And, what they were selling was an online course of 29 different classes (typically offered as an in-person conference) from industry professionals geared toward writers and authors.

The webinar was taught by Alessandra Torre, the founder of Inkers Con, an annual authors conference.

I’m still working my way through the lessons, but so far, it was well worth the $195.00. So, let’s go. Let’s get into my top takeaways.

  1. Goodreads was designed for authors. There are over 70 million users, and they are all readers!
  2. As an Author, you should be active on Goodreads, if not weekly, at least monthly.
  3. Running ads is not that beneficial, but if you have a nice publishing budget, you should definitely do the giveaways.
  4. There are two different giveaway packages. One is $119, and the other is $599. Alessandra doesn’t recommend the $599. But Highly recommends the $119.
  5. There are three email triggers. Meaning, when you write a blog, create an event, or release a book, Goodreads sends an EMAIL TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS ON GOODREADS, letting them know what you just shared. This is HUGE!
  6. Under the review section of YOUR BOOK, you can share things like links, photos, book trailers, excerpts, etc.
  7. Goodreads should be used from the moment you’ve decided you’re writing a book until its release day. This is what she calls “the release plan.”
  8. Release Plan: from the moment you have an idea for a book, and you know you’re writing it for sure, upload a mock cover to Goodreads. Use this in the same way you would use it to update your reading status. For example:
    1. “Hey guys, I’m writing a new fantasy young adult novel, which I plan to release 2021.”  Then, under this book, you can use the “review” section to add the title, the blurb, the preorder link, and more.
  9. Event invites are the perfect place to generate buzz about your book; remember, creating an event will trigger an email to all your Goodreads friends. You can create an invite for the cover reveal and on release day.
  10. Readers are not the only once looking for books on Goodreads; publishers, movie producers, foreign publishers, and agents are always looking on Goodreads to find the next big book.

These are my biggest takeaways from the webinar. In short, if you’re an author, GET ON GOODREADS AND USE IT.

Be sure to add me on Goodreads today!

In this video, I share some of the things I learned from the webinar. Check it out.

Until next time,

 

Our Feelings Are Driven By Two Things

When I first started on my self-development journey, I was surprised to learn that our lives are driven by two things that evoke strong feelings: love or fear. 

How do we know if what we’re feeling is coming from love or fear? Well, these are some of the feelings associated with love:

Joy
Compassion
Generosity
Patience

 

While these feelings are associated with fear:
Guilt
Hate
Jealousy
Resentment

At every moment we are feeling something, therefore, it's important to be in tune with what we're feeling. For example, if we're feeling any one of the emotions listed under love, it means, that moment or desire is being driven by love. When this is the case, we’re okay to keep feeling what we're feeling. But when we're making decisions or living our lives guided by the emotions under fear, that's when an adjustment is necessary. 

The problem is that we don’t set out to feel guilt, hate, greed, jealousy, or resentment; but sometimes these emotions are easier to feel than those derived out of love, depending on the problem-at-hand.  

This is what you must understand about emotions; our emotions are a product of our past experiences or the perceived perception of what's yet to happen.  If a particular past memory happened to be a pleasant one, then, we probably feel any one of the emotions that stem out of love. Furthermore, if we can attach this positive memory to something we desire in the future, then we probably will have positive feelings when we envision the future. For example, if you have a positive experience with moving, then every time you think about moving, whether in the past or the future, then the emotions you generate will probably be those associated with love. The problem occurs when the opposite is true. A negative encounter in the past can cause you to live with feelings associated with fear. 

A quick remedy to this is to stop living in the past and/or future: we can’t control either. The only time we have control over is, NOW. At this moment we have the option to choose how we’re going to feel about a given subject. At this moment we can choose to look at a problem from a place of love or a place of fear. This is the beauty of being a human being, free will-- in all terms. Even if someone has hurt us badly, we have the option to choose how that person’s actions will affect our lives. We can choose to forgive, to feel joy-- despite them. Or we can feel anger and resentment. It’s all up to us!

Till Next Time!

 

My 2019 Favorites | Books, Wellness, Tea and More

Merry Christmas, everyone,

Well, it's that time of year again when we get to share our favorites of the year. Some of the things I'm about to share with you might be new to you, and others you might have tried before. No matter what, I hope that I give you some gift ideas for yourself, or for a loved one. So here we go, in no particular order here are my favorites of 2019.

When you're done here, you can head on over to my YouTube channel to watch me chat a little more about these items and why they mean so much to me.

 

1. Diffuser

If you've never had a diffuser, then I'm telling you, you're missing out. If you're anything like me, and you're sensitive to strong scents, then a diffuser is perfect for you. Not to mention the health benefits that come with diffusing essential oils vs. burning a strong scented candle. Some of those benefits are: promotes better sleep, improves concentration, supports the immune system and much much more. 

2. Super Attractor

If you don't know who Gabby Bernstein is, then this is the perfect time to get introduced to her. Super Attractor is her latest book and it's just as amazing as all her others.  In this book she walks you through how to become an attractor in life, so to attract the things you want. From mindfulness practices to practical lifestyle steps, this book will teach you how to live the life of your dreams. It's a winner in my eyes.

3. The Universe Has Your Back 

Also by Gabby Bernstein are these amazing Mantra Cards which I use daily. This 52-card deck is what I start each morning with. I shuffle the cards, and with a little prayer, I pick one out at random to serve as inspiration for the day. If you've never tried Mantra cards before, I highly recommend that you start with these. Not only are they beautiful with positive messages, but they are a great quality which will last you for years to come. 

4. Save The Cat Writes a Novel

If you follow me on Instagram or YouTube, then you already know about my obsession with this book, so of course, it had to make the list. This book is the single best resource I've ever read on writing (and I have a degree in English with a concentration on creative writing). Save the Cat Writes a Novel reveals the 15 beats (plot points) that make for a successful story. The book has 10 examples from different novels, from different genres, all using the method. It is my FAVORITE find of the year. And if you're a writer, you NEED to get this book today. 

 

5. My Book Companion Journal

In case you don't know, I just released My Book Companion Journal. The reason this made the list is that this journal helped me finish the first draft to my novel, plus it helped me with rewriting my next release. It has helped to inspire me and remind me of my worth and my love for writing. Writing a novel not only takes discipline, but it takes a certain mindset. If you're not careful, you can fall victim to things like imposter syndrome, comparison, and feelings of unworthiness. The journal was designed to help writers remember their worth and the love they have for writing. If you want to get back to the real reason you started writing in the first place, then this journal is for you.

6. Blue Condenser Microphone

If you're in the voice-over space or podcasting and you've been looking for an affordable microphone that delivers good quality, then this is mic is for you. I just got it a couple of months ago and it's truly made a huge difference in the quality of my voice overs. If you swing by my YouTube channel, you can listen to the quality of the mic here

7. Beachbody 3 Week Yoga Retreat

I believe a lot of people don't exercise or stick to their workouts because they don't enjoy what they're doing. For me, it's all about Yoga. That's what I like, and that's what I stick to. So, when Beachbody released this program, I was all over it. This three-week yoga retreat program is one that I've been doing for over a year, and I'm still challenged by it. It's one of my favorite things about my morning routine, one that I actually look forward to doing. 

8.  Pukka  Chamomile, Vanilla & Manuka Honey Tea

I don't know why, but for years I wanted to be a tea drinker so badly, but I couldn't find a single tea that I enjoyed. That is until I found this one. This tea is delicious, but most importantly it does a wonderful job of winding me down at the end of the evening. So, if you're like me and want to love tea but can't find one that you love, then check this brand out. They have a ton of different flavors.

 

9. Collagen + Matcha

For years I heard about the benefits of Matcha and this year I decided to put it to the test. I love this particular one because it comes with collagen. In the past, I've struggled with joint pain, but after adding this product to my diet I've seen significant improvement in my overall health. Some of the benefits of Matcha are; lowers blood sugar and cholesterol; improves alertness and concentration; high in antioxidants, and helps to prevent cancer. Benefits of collagen; promotes healthy growth of hair and nails; helps with gut health and it moisturizes skin from the inside out.

10. Dutch Oven

I'm not the chef in our home, but I love the way our food comes out with our new dutch oven. I don't know about you, but there's nothing better than soups or a hearty stew during the cold winter months. We use our dutch over at least 4-5 times a week. Plus, since getting our dutch oven, we've been cooking enough for leftovers which is something I was never a fan of but I'm totally in love with now. So, if you've been thinking of taking your cooking game to the next level, then you might want to consider getting one of these puppies.

Well, there you have it. These are my favorites of 2019, which I will continue loving well into 2020. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. See you in 2020!

Remember to swing by the video to hear more about these products.

More like this:

My Favorite Summer Products

5 Books That Will Transform Your Life

 

How to Quit Your Full-Time Job and Write More

Hello Friends,

If you're a writer, chances are, you probably have a full-time job. This means you don't have a lot of free time dedicated to your writing. But what if you could change that? What if you could make a great living as a writer?

In today's video, I'm sharing 6 Ways You Can Make a Living as a Self-Published Author.

 
 

Some may have you believe that you can't support yourself as a writer, that is a fallacy.  Swing by to watch how making money as a writer is not only possible but simple. 

Until next time,

Mari Suggs
 
You might also like:
 
 
If you want to start creating the life of your dreams, know that it all starts with your mindset. My book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave is the perfect place to get started. The book is a simple step by step guide on how to start creating a mindset of success. 
 
Don't delay another minute. Get your copy today and start living your best life. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

The 7 Things You Need to Know About Creating Affirmations

Before I learned about the power that words had in my life, I was careless with them. I often said things about myself that weren't kind or empowering. But, once I discovered I could change my life by rephrasing the words in my head, everything changed for me. 

What are Affirmations and How to Create Them 2019

In case you're new to affirmations, here's a quick definition.

Affirmations are positive statements that help you get through difficult situations or get past negative and limiting believes. 

Here's how you create affirmations:

1. Start your affirmation with "I". This helps with keeping it personal.

i.e. I am in perfect alignment with my purpose.

2. Use present tense. Whenever you want to manifest anything in your life, you start by acting as if it's already a fact. Writing your affirmations in present tense starts the process of changing the neuropathways in your brain to create the feeling of "it" already being so in your life.

i.e. I am brave and in control of this day.

3. It's about what you want. This is when knowing what you truly want comes into play. Affirmations should be true to your soul's desires and not to your ego's. Meaning, do you want what you want because you want it? Or do you want it simply to prove someone wrong, or because you're trying to keep up with others? Be crystal clear on what you want and start there.

i.e. I take pleasure in my own solitude.

4. You should keep it short. It's possible that you will want to repeat this affirmation throughout your day, therefore, the shorter it is the more than likely you'll remember it when you need it.

i.e.  I let go of worries that drain my energy.

5. You should be specific. Affirmations are there to help you overcome difficulties in your day. So, the more specific you are, the more effective it will be when it comes time to put it into action.

i.e. I trust myself.

6. It should be written for you, not anyone else. This a good way to learn that the only person you have control over, is you. Fix your attitude, your feelings, your perspective and the entire world changes for you.

i.e. I let go of my anger so I can see clearly.

7. It should matter to you. This practice is all about you. Therefore, make sure that your affirmation matters to you and that it moves you on a cellular level. And, that you get excited at the probability of actually feeling the way you want to feel or having what you've written down.

i.e. I surround myself with friends that treat me well.

I hope you found this post helpful. Leave me a comment below if you plan on starting to use affirmations. If you want to see the video that goes along with this post, visit my YouTube channel here

Until next time, stay safe. 

The Universe Has Your Back 52 Card Deck

 

 

5 Ways to Stay Mindful Throughout Your Day

There was a time when all I focused on was on the things I didn't have. And, when I wasn't focusing on that, I was focused on fear-driven thoughts that predicted a terrifying future. This behavior had me always on edge and living by fear, instead of love. Over the years I learned mindful techniques that remind me to be present and to focus on what's right, instead of what's wrong.

5 Ways to Stay Mindful Throughout Your Day

Here are five ways you can begin to be more mindful so that you can live your days with peace and joy. 

Tip # 1: Take a Breath

Breathing in and taking a moment of pause is one of the best ways to return your attention to the present. You can do it at any time, from anywhere. Taking in deep breaths produce calming effects in your brain, resulting in mood changes So, if you're feeling stressed, confused, or even tired, try taking in a few deep breaths and see what difference it makes in your mood. 

Tip # 2: Connect With Your Senses

There's a lot of anxiety going around these days, and it if you suffer from it, you know how tough it is to live with it. I found one technique that helps during anxiety is to return to the truth of the moment by connecting to my senses. Whenever moments of angst begin to seep into your day, step back, close your eyes and tune in to your senses. What do you hear? What do you smell? Connecting to your senses will get you grounded and remind you that you're okay.

Tip # 3: Journaling

This is another buzz word running wild on social media these days, but with good reason. Journaling has a therapeutic effect. Instead of holding on to your troubles in your head, put them on the page. Once out of your head, you'll have room for peace and quiet to enter without conflict. Furthermore, you will likely find that what was troubling you isn't as bad as you thought. That's the power of journaling, you get clarity, and possibly even solutions to things you thought were too grand to handle.

Tip #4: Eat Well

We all know the benefits of eating a healthy, but what I mean by this is to become aware while you're enjoying your meals. Put down your phone, step away from your work and don't sit in front of the TV. In this week's YouTube video on this topic, I share a story on Kathy Bates on how she lost over 80 pounds through awareness. If you want to learn more watch here

5 Ways to Stay Mindful Throughout Your Day (video)

Tip #5: Just Stop

Most of us lead very busy lives, but this doesn't mean you're being productive. Often times it just means you're running away from something that frightens you. By staying "busy" you avoid the true issue. With the internet at our fingertips, this usually means our business' are also within reach 24 hours a day. This is dangerous for our health and well being. Learn to listen to your body by practicing mindfulness. If you're feeling anxious, is it truly anxiety? Or, is it simply because you need a nap, or to eat, or take a walk? By learning to stop and listen to the signs your body is giving you, you will begin to live more peaceful and joyful days. 

I hope you found these tips helpful. Let me know if you will put these tips into practice in the comments below. 

If you want to watch the video that goes along with this post, visit my YouTube channel here

5 WAYS TO STAY MINDFUL THROUGHOUT YOUR DAY

You might also like:

5 Tips: How to Fall In Love with Your Life

10 Healthy Habits for Healthier You

Until Next Time, stay safe. 

 

How to Move Away From A Problem

I was listening to one of my motivational speakers this morning and they touched on a very interesting topic—solutions vs. problems.

Have you ever experienced a problem and all you do is think about it, talk about it or dwell on it? Well, you’ve been going about it all wrong. The next time you’re faced with a “problem,” how about taking a different approach, focus on the solution instead of the problem.

For example, let’s say you are struggling with your weight. Is it really necessary to weigh yourself five times a day? Or, how important is it to figure out how you got there? Wouldn’t a better approach be to research the “solution” to your problem? And by research I mean take notice of your thought life. Instead of going through your day talking about how you didn’t work-out all week. Or how terribly you’ve been eating, how about you begin to think about a solution. Why didn’t you work-out? Is it time? Is it that your work-out regiment is dreadful? Is it that you didn’t have any clothes to work out in? (that’s a good one, I used this one for years!). You see my point—I hope.

Going the path of finding the solution, is always a better option to dwelling on the problem. The solution will get you results. The problem will keep you stuck.

Apply this method to any area of your life where you are finding yourself focusing on “the problem.” Within time you will see how shifting your mindset away from the problem to the solution will make you feel better, ultimately eliminating the problem altogether.

If you found this post helpful, please share! And remember to like my Facebook and to follow me on InstagramTwitter and Pinterest.

Till Next Time!

 

Week 2 of the Last 90 Days Challenge | Results

In last week's post, Last 90 Days Challenge | Planning StrategyI shared the steps I took in the first week of the last 90 days challenge, hosted by Rachel Hollis.

And although that first week was great, the second week has been even better. I can’t believe how much progress I made in the first two weeks. Before I update you on the progress I made, let me tell you what I do each day to make sure I stay on track. 

My mornings begin at 6:00 a.m. followed immediately by meditating. I find that meditating right as I wake up works best for me because my mind hasn’t been compromised by other people or social media.

Once meditation is over, I make a cup of coffee and begin my journaling practice, this includes:


Picking out a mantra card from the Universe Has Your Back, by Gabby Bernstein.

Writing down an affirmation for the day

Writing down an intention for the day

Writing down 10 things I’m thankful for. (I try to not duplicate from the day before unless I feel moved to do so. There’s plenty to be thankful for, and I don’t want to take anything for granted. Then, if I’m inspired to, I follow this with a bit of journaling, but this part is optional.)

Reviewing my 90 days goals

Once finished, I get up and I begin my workout, which takes about 30 minutes or so.


These are pretty much my mornings, Monday through Friday. I’m lenient on the weekends, and I don’t feel like I’m failing because of it. On the contrary, I feel energized and excited to get started on Monday mornings. 

You wouldn’t think that setting goals, working toward them and having an active wellness routine actually works, right? (wink wink) You guys, it totally does!

Here's my update: I started my email subscription list a few months back and though I had a few wonderful individuals join, I hadn’t really made a huge dent. One of my goals was to grow the list so that I could start communicating and sharing on my own terms, not dependent on other social mediums. I set a goal to reach a certain number of subscribers—which I thought was reasonable by December 31st 2018, and instead, I reached my goal 12 days after starting this challenge. 12 days! In addition to, I lost a few pounds and stayed consistent with my spiritual practice all week--once again. 

Well, that's it for week two, I'm excited to see what the rest of week three brings me. 

If you want to get a jump-start on your goal-setting, then download my free workbook and start reaching your goals today! 

Till Next Time!

 

View older posts »